The truth is a funny thing, isn't it?? Firstly it's quite colorful & warm as we're always splitting it into degrees, (of honesty) as well as various shades of grey. Next we want to reserve it for only the select self-chosen ones, and if that doesn't work; then we protect & defend the truth, with a ring of lies. Everybody lies, just ask anybody! Here again we have a kind of color code for our lies: little white lies are the ones we allow ourselves when sparing another's feelings is of equal importance as our keeping a secret. The other end of the spectrum would then be the black hearted lie when the liar takes perverse pleasure in the deception of others. Those who most often and flagrantly lie to us, demand total honesty from us when it is largely absent in society, business & politics. It is perhaps the worst of the double standards which society prefers to ignore rather than remedy.
Lying is something we all do all the time, if not every day, in every conversation; but I'm getting to that. The thing here is that lying is supposed a big no-no if you put credibility into the Top 10 (commandments.)
I grant you it is rather low on the list, and does seem to condemn bearing false witness against thy neighbor, while being rather obscure regards the fellow across town. What's the use of having such Holy commandments from the creator if we can arbitrarily just hold ourselves and others somehow immune from them as it suits our will? Good question, huh? What is worse, are all the pantomimes everyone goes thru pretending that society actually honors truth. Don't you think it's getting pretty grotesque?
There are the lies we tell others, and then there are the lies we tell ourselves; and in both instances, the reason why is always the better story. Sometimes the reasons even make a kind of sense. We tell ourselves that, so as to better hide our shame. We lie to our children generation after generation, encouraging their belief in Santa & the tooth fairy; then wonder why as adults they no longer believe us about much of anything.
Before I retired; I spent a couple decades as a professional counselor. I started out as one of two counselors at a
in Vietnam Veteran Outreach Center . Five years of
working with traumatized souls taught me many things, but the most important
was to treat the soul on the etheric level, not the meatsack
in 3D! When our center's five year grant
expired we closed the doors, each of us taking what we'd learned forward into
the future with us. Although there were
no more vets to work with; I'd found my calling, and figured I'd find a surplus
of clients in the civilian population to help.
I mention this because by far the number one killer of
relationships, is the lie that becomes a pattern of deception nobody
will acknowledge. Alaska
As a holistic practitioner I was usually open to new methods which produced interesting results, adding them to my tools & skill set whenever I could. One of these tools is something called Reverse Speech; discovered in 1983 by Australian linguistic researcher David Oates. When back masking tapes of human speech, or playing them backwards; Oates discovered that within the garbled, unintelligible backwards audio, there very often are clearly heard phrases, spoken normally! David Oates first book, ["Beyond Backward Masking"] and media attention came in 1987, and a couple of years later he moved to the
to promote and advance his groundbreaking research in
what he calls Reverse Speech. United States
People began paying attention and taking it seriously when Oates appeared on the Art Bell radio show, coast to coast in 1996, a year after his second book was published ["Reverse Speech: voices from the unconscious"]. Oates soon became a popular guest as he always brought a nice selection of reverse speech examples, usually from the politicians and newsmakers of the day. The one presidential reversal which got a lot of attention was when George W. Bush was speaking about the war on terror, but in reverse he says "We'll rule the world, dad." Just one of many very revealing & truly spooky reversals from the smirking chimp president. Not only did this new emerging technology interest me in general, I also saw what I thought would be a perfect application, in personal counseling & therapy. I purchased the books, a study course, and a reversing machine which is a slightly modified portable cassette recorder; altered to allow for playing the tape backwards. Right away I realized there were some potential issues around using this new technology, primarily informed consent and non-infringement; as well as getting to really comprehend the things you are hearing & what they represent.
"The Truth Points to Itself"
It didn't take very long for me to appreciate how very powerful reverse speech can be. I'd had the equipment for a few weeks, still learning how to properly use it in hopes of folding it into my counseling practice. A friend of mine who is a professional audio technician was visiting from
one Saturday afternoon, and when he asked what new
stuff I was into, I pulled out the recorder and explained the basics of reverse
speech to him. My friend was intrigued,
and wanted to try it just for fun. So it
was we agreed to just carry on our visit with the recorder on, and my friend began
talking about all the things he had planned for the week. About fifteen minutes later we realized we'd
both kinda ignored the tape recorder while focusing on the conversation. With the tape ready to hear in reverse, we
waited with anticipation to see what, if anything we would hear. We didn't have to wait very long at all:
there, amid the unintelligible gibberish of language played backwards we both
heard it clear as a bell, it was my friends voice saying "I'm so lonely."
My friend looked at me as if I had just
committed the greatest possible betrayal of his very soul. I could see the anguish on his face, he was
devastated; and angrily gathering his things to take his leave. He made it quite clear that he thought I had
set him up with a fake tape; never even considering it was his voice, or
that he'd showed up unannounced. My
friend stormed out of my place, and I haven't seen or heard from him in the ten
years since. Powerful stuff! San Francisco
In fact, reverse speech is so powerful in revealing the truth, that the white house devised techniques to try to defeat it; teaching the president to alter his cadence of speech to try breaking up the reversals before they occur. This has met with limited success though, as the condemning reversals just keep popping up whenever a politician is talking. Reminds me of the one about how to tell if a politician is lying - his lips will be moving! I continued working with reverse speech after that initial disaster but was unsure of how to use it as a counseling aide, or if I should even try as I was discovering some interesting facts along the way. If they are hearing reversals from the president or some movie celebrity people are just fine with reverse speech, until they are the one being recorded; then it becomes something else altogether. I discovered that the vast majority of people simply don't want to know what their own speech reversals are saying about them. They don't want to know, and they don't want anyone else knowing either. Kinda limits it's use as a tool for therapy or self-improvement.
There exist several credible applications for this technology, beyond personal growth. Reverse speech is being used in business partnerships & transactions; as well as by homeland security, the police, and private investigation companies. The world of reverse speech is filled with metaphors such as Eagle, Wolf, Whirlwind and many others, each with their own unique meaning and interpretation. Recognizing, and understanding these metaphors is key to properly using the technology. Furthermore, there are two basic types of speech reversals which commonly occur; Incongruent reversals are saying the opposite of what is actually being said; and Complimentary Reversals are those which agree with and give added weight to what is being said. In it's most basic form then, reverse speech serves as a most excellent lie detector which is so efficient that it even reveals the lies we tell ourselves without realizing it. Reverse speech reveals the truth of the matter because it by-passes all known human defense mechanisms and gets right to the very heart of the matter. It can be a very blunt and brutal awakening to truth; one that the majority of us are not yet ready to embrace.
"Ain't no way to hide your lying eyes"~ The Eagles
Another intriguing new technology was discovered some years back by Dr. Paul Ekman, an expert in non-verbal communication & body language who pioneered the science of face reading; the fascinating world of Microexpressions. Dr. Ekman has compiled an "Atlas of Emotions" comprised of over ten thousand unique facial expressions, and is known as the human lie detector. His seminal work is on specific biological correlates of specific emotions, demonstrating the universality and discreetness of emotions, using the Darwinian approach. Similar to reverse speech, these very brief facial microexpressions reveal the truth of our emotions despite what our words are saying. Lasting fractions of a second, these microexpressions are usually as invisible to the eye as speech reversals are to the ear. While nobody has learned to actually hear speech reversals in real time (to my knowledge), it's a different story with microexpressions; as one can learn to spot a great many of them, and know just what they mean.
With reverse speech its all about the metaphors, but with face reading its the telltale manipulators that give us away when we're lying, like touching the face, lips, or ear. A wrinkle of the nose or snarling of the lip lasting perhaps a fifteenth of a second denotes disdain and contempt. We've always heard it said that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and if you know what to look for, the eyes will also reveal if someone is lying to you. Most usually if someone looks you directly in the eye when answering a question, they are lying, repeating a practiced performance of deception, and they are looking in your eyes to gauge the success of their lie. If a persons eyes move or shift to the left when answering a question they are accessing the memory part of the brain, and speaking the truth from memory. However, if their eyes shift to the right, it means they are accessing the part of the brain that builds and constructs narrative, and lying to you! As I said, most usually!
In yet another case of art imitating life, Dr. Ekman's work with body language & microexpressions was turned into a TV series, "Lie to Me" (2009-2011) starring Tim Roth; which served to bring the subject to public awareness, as a kind of extension of the study of body language in general. When someone you're speaking with suddenly crosses their arms over their chest; its an involuntary defensive mechanism meaning they feel threatened or insecure, and don't want to engage the subject matter for whatever reason. Microexpressions present at the same time can give added insight into a persons mindset; if you know what to look for. In every case, these subconscious "tells" give us away whenever we are in conflict; revealing things we don't want others to know:
A sudden, brief flare of the nostrils denotes apprehension or agitation.
'Crows feet' around the eyes with pushed up cheeks denotes happiness.
Eyebrows down & together with glaring eyes denotes anger.
Eyebrows raised & together with raised upper eyelids denotes fear.
Drooping upper eyelids with lip corners turned down denotes sadness.
Lip corner tightened and raised on one side only denotes contempt.
A brief wrinkling of the nose denotes disgust or disdain.
Both corners of mouth turned sharply downward denotes arrogant disgust & contempt.
Oblique eyebrows with the mouth slightly open denotes surprise.
Such non-verbal communication is going on all the time, we just don't see it because these expressions are so brief in nature; still with practice, they can be learned. Research indicates that a very small percentage of the population, around 5%, are Naturals, meaning that they can see and understand the language of microexpressions without training - human lie detectors. I can imagine that being one of these naturals would be a blessing wrapped in a curse, because basic human nature seems to orbit the death star of don't ask - don't tell when it comes down to keeping secrets from each other.
"History records no struggle more noble or long enduring than that of humanity against the truth"
We ignore and gloss over our own little self deceptions, which I suppose makes it easier to overlook the everyday little deceptions of those we deal with in our various entangled relationships. For example, when two people first meet and are attracted to each other they often begin the dating process: in which each person does everything they can to show themselves in the best light possible; while simultaneously hiding and concealing their faults and shortcomings. We've all done it, but isn't it really like starting a relationship based on deception? Are we so afraid of loneliness & rejection that we prefer toxic relationships with other wounded souls. Maybe its also true that misery loves company, but it just seems like such a waste to me, wasteful and kind of pointless.
Whenever we base & begin (romantic) relationships for any reason other than the right one such liaisons often leave a small spark of resentment in both people, which in time can rage into a nightmare full of all the nasty things resentment breeds. Sir Walter Scott had it right; "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." The other really cool aspect to honesty is that you never have to remember what you said!
To one degree or another society has always worn a set of blinders when it comes to the honesty of our politicians, but these days it has morphed into a full-on blindfold we give ourselves; because we just really don't want to know how deep the rabbit hole goes, kind of like my friend from a decade ago, we will reject even the boldest of truths just to keep our illusions and deceptions in place. In other words, it is an act of insanity to be well adjusted to an insane world!
Until Next Time ~ Be Good to Each Other
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