As we navigate our way through the shift of the ages, and this great awakening blooming like plankton across the planet, it just seems there are so very many things and issues one has to be aware of and contend with if we are to avoid running aground on the rocks & shoals of a rapidly changing reality paradigm.
It seems almost a daily occurrence that the populace of the
planet is betrayed and deceived by those who have managed to slime their way
into positions of leadership. Every day
we are shown newer and more disgusting examples of this betrayal, feeling
powerless perhaps to change it much less fight against it. There is a nebulous sense that something
really big is about to happen; you can’t quite put your finger on it, but you
feel it just the same. You can feel the
tension of all this when you observe the people you encounter and work with
every day.
Everyone is now feeling the effects of both the shift, and the mass
awakening underway. For those who are
awake, aware and on a spiritual path these energies are perhaps easier to deal
with, because we are aware of and
acknowledge them. It’s a different story
with the sleeping dreamers trying to make sense of what is unfolding around us
all as a 3D reality steadily shifts to a higher frequency vibration. Both share
a common enemy.
Either way, awake or asleep, there is a built in aspect of
self within each of us which if allowed to, can take over your life and make a
shambles of it in extreme cases, and that is the ego; or to be more precise,
our negative ego. When we incarnate into
the physical form, the focus of consciousness is shifted from the higher conscious
mind, thru the unconscious and subconscious mind…to the conscious mind. Once incarnated the whole self is divided up
into several “aspects of self” such as the inner child, nurturing parent &
disapproving parent, masculine and feminine and the ego; which as stated has
both a positive and negative expression.
I like to imagine this collective might be structured perhaps something
like a large corporation, with the self, (being us) as the CEO or president,
and the various aspects of self each performing their functions as specialized
departments within the “corporate structure of self.”
It is important to understand that the ego does not exist in
the higher conscious mind, where there is no need of it; rather it is an aspect
of self existing only in the embodied state, created to assist the self on the
material plane of existence. The
incarnated soul nearly always finds itself overwhelmed in this earthly
environment, and the ego emerged to assist the self with survival, how to find
value, meaning and how to belong. The
ego is designed and programmed to serve as the eye through which we view and
understand the world around us, its sole function being to deliver to us
information from the outside world. The
trouble is that the new ego is as overwhelmed as we are by the physical world,
and has no better idea of how to succeed at the business of living than does
the newly incarnated self. The two must
find a way to work together. Now in this
corporate structure of self, the egos job is much the same as the mail room delivery
boy in a real corporation. (Think Tim
Robbins in “The Hudsucker Proxy”) On a regular daily basis the ego delivers
to the CEO (us) not just random information from the physical world, but also
information & communications from those around us. Our job is to place this information in
proper context, then to give it form, or if you like, to decide what the
content means, and what to do about it. Then
we give it back to the ego, to create that form in the physical world. The ego
self then puts that form into action, (the
male energy of doing) and being (the
feminine energy of being.) That’s the ego’s job.
Many have discovered that this efficient and well designed
system doesn’t always work as planned, it breaks down over time. How does this happen? One might say it happens due to free will. All too often we as the CEO of our corporate
self, are not in our office taking care of business when the ego arrives with
fresh dispatches for us to deal with; we are off doing something more fun,
leaving things to run on “auto pilot” in our absence. Now this is all well and good providing it does not become
the norm. If the boss is out of the
office more than in when the ego delivers the daily dispatches, things begin to
happen. It begins harmless enough at
first. Finding itself alone in the boss’s
office yet again, the ego lingers, looks around a bit, and maybe even sits in
the bosses chair with its feet up on the desk, perhaps fantasizing. In time this becomes a little unofficial
break in the work day, a time when the ego is in the big chair.
One day the ego self notices there’s a lot of work piled up
that the boss hasn’t processed, and people demanding answers to their questions
etc. So, the ego decides to help out by
doing the bosses job. The problem is
that the ego is not designed or qualified to create context from content, or to
properly respond by giving it form. The
problem becomes serious when the CEO finally realizes what is going on, but
chooses to do nothing for the moment.
Being that the ego is keyed to survival, sooner or later the negative
side emerges if permitted to remain in control. The ego doesn’t necessarily know it’s not
qualified to do the boss’s job, so it opens the mail, answers the phone and
agrees to things it doesn’t understand.
The ego invariably makes mistakes and screws up because it makes up
meanings it can understand; it responds improperly and gets into trouble, getting
us into trouble. Thinking its doing
right, the ego defends its position if attacked, having heard that offense is
the best defense, the negative ego is born and it begins covering for itself
regardless of what that may do to us and our lives. When the CEO (us) finally decides to re-take
the seat of authority, the ego panics, and fights back, and remember, it knows
everything about you. Suddenly everything
becomes about the ego protecting itself rather than doing the job the right
way. Before long we become the enemy and
the negative ego comes to despise us, for various reasons. The more we fight it for control, the more we
are seen as a threat, because at the heart of things the ego is all about
survival. This battle with the negative
ego can begin in adolescence and rage on for years; perhaps accounting for the
self destructive tendencies exhibited in so many.
The negative ego is secretive, untrustworthy and deceptive
in the extreme and soon becomes adept at telling us what we want to hear. It is critical to remember here that although
the negative ego knows everything about us, all we know of it, is what it
allows us to see. It is at this point
when some are tempted to try something they read in a book or saw in a seminar…they
become convinced they must kill the ego to be free of it. The moment we decide to try to kill the ego, oh boy, the war
is on, big time; and the negative ego now has its worst fears confirmed, we are
the enemy and must be destroyed. Depending on various factors the negative ego will either
commit to an all out war with the self, or it may ‘retreat’ out of sight to
wage a long drawn out guerrilla war on the self; sabotaging it at every
opportunity, but it never relinquishes power for that is seen as defeat &
death.
So, now there is an unqualified power hungry aspect of self
in control that is determined to survive even if it means destroying the
‘host.’ If left unchecked it threatens to bring chaos to our life and
relationships, one disaster at a time.
Anyone who challenges the negative ego becomes the enemy and must be
marginalized. The negative ego becomes something of a chameleon in its mastery
of deceit. It hides in the forest of
emotions, learning how to mimic each one.
It will tell you you’re wrong when you’re right, tells you you’ve done
badly when the reverse is true, and in time it even gets good enough to
convince you that you long ago defeated your negative ego.
How then do we deal with an out of control negative ego? The obvious answer is with honesty and love; never intimidation or force, which by the way almost never works. Neither will traditional forms of psychotherapy be very helpful, that’s a game the ego likes, and excels at by the time you realize you need help. I have heard that some have had good results using such modalities as Primal Scream Therapy, or Reality Therapy, to confront and manage the negative ego aspect. The problem is that you’re trying to fix something within by going outside, to the illusion of physical reality, which is at best a temporary band-aid for a permanent internal issue.
One of the reasons the negative ego becomes hostile is
because it really isn’t happy having to do all this…it isn’t what the ego
wanted, and to break free of its control the first step is understanding
that. The next step is of course to
determine what it is the ego does want; what it was seeking all along, and of
course that is esteem. It wants to be
important because of the desire nature
within all of us, it’s hardwired for that you could say. The third step in breaking free of ego is remembering that
getting your way with the ego is not at all dissimilar to dealing with a very
small child; it really helps to remember this. Next comes the hard part, for you must go within and
confront the negative ego on its own home ground. Go within and call the ego forth with love
& harmony as your intent. It may not
respond the first or second time, or even the third time you beckon it; but if
you are persistent, the ego will sit with you, and listen if your heart shows
love and forgiveness.
You can forget about the damage already done up to this
point. Chances are you will just have to
find a way to deal with what may be impossible to repair. This meeting is about ending the conflict and
getting on with life with a harmonious corporate self, so forgiveness should be
first. Next you take responsibility for
your part in everything, after all if you had been on the ball in the first
place none of this would probably have happened, right? By now you have the ego’s full attention.
Time to offer it a
truce, and a promotion. By this point
you will not have to prove to the ego that it isn’t qualified for your job,
it’s painfully aware. What you do have
to prove is your recognition of its ability, plain and simple.
Working with the
negative ego is very challenging, and time consuming and at first nothing will
come easy. In life it often takes great
effort to rebuild trust where it has been broken, but that, as they say, is the
name of the tune. As you slowly gain
that trust remind the ego that you both began life together, and need to work
together for either to be happy and fulfilled.
You establish a mutual peace agreement.
Finally, to reclaim your power and responsibilities from the ego, to
reclaim the CEO office you must promote the ego from mail room delivery boy to
Director of Communications, and reprogram it to maximize the potential it was
designed for. As an example, the egos
prime directive is to collect data from the physical world and deliver that to
you. Tell it that as Director of
Communications its new job is to now scan for all the data picked up from all
of our senses…everything, and deliver
same to CEO without acting on any of it.
Soon the ego will be delivering torrents of raw data to the CEO’s office
for processing and response, just the way it’s supposed to be. This can be overwhelming at first, like a
mild case of sensory overload which quickly enough becomes the new norm, as you
find your awareness expanding across the board, and perhaps even across the
universe.
I find it interesting that the out of control negative ego so
closely mimics the tactics and behavior of our so called political parties in
this country. In both cases power is
wrongly seized by unqualified entities that make a holy mess of everything and
have no regard whatsoever for the host.
Sound familiar? If indeed America ’s
negative ego has been wrecking things for fun and profit, I wonder how much
more we can take, before we seek a way to stop it once and for all and restore
the balance. Just as we each must
confront our negative ego (each in their
own way) to restore balance to our lives; we must also confront the ego’s
real life counterparts currently destroying this country. If we do not confront them soon, it will be
too late.
Until next time, be good to each other!
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